Hollywood portrays the idea of love as something akin to a life filled with intense passion, long nights of romance, brilliant struggles to keep one another's heart, and so on it goes. All in all, the "picture" we often get of love is one that is a life lived with the volume turned up and the heart set on full throttle. It's a life centered on passion and emotion, or, at least that's the scene we watch play out on the big screen.
While love is most certainly passionate, love that lasts more than the typical Hollywood marriage of twelve months, is a love not based on emotion, it's based on a promise. Lasting love definitely contains emotion within it, yet it's foundation is not emotional.
Think about it: if you were building a house, would you want a foundation that is moody, volatile, and emotional? I dare say nobody would want that house. You'd want a foundation that is solid and steady, regardless of the situation.
Scripture tells us that real love "... is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs." (1 Corinthians 13:4-5)
Love is patient. That's a choice, not an emotion. Love is not self-seeking. That's a choice. Love is not easily angered nor does it keep a record of wrongs. That's a massive choice, when one chooses to overcome the emotion of anger and bury a wrong done.
You can have infatuation and passion, but never be deceived into thinking that infatuation and passion will guarantee love, because that's a life built on a fantasy. The older I get, the more I see that love which lasts through a lifetime is a love that is passionate, but it always chooses to love, even when the emotional account is temporarily spent. It's real love that wants to honor one another. It's real love that wants to see the best in the other person. It's real love that proves itself by hanging around when wrinkles come and good health starts showing it's age. Real love chooses to keep the promise of continuing to love. The beautiful thing is that you can own love that is both passionate and yet based on reality, because the grace of God can bring the best of these two worlds together into a reality that is certain, if and only if, it's based on the love of Jesus that is active in the lives of the lovers.
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